Sunday, 19 January 2014

BBC KOMLA DUMOR: I’m from Ghana.My grandfather wrote our country’s national anthem. My mother made amazing contributions to Ghana education and my older sister is currently chief executive of the Ghana Investment Promotions Centre. But I think Nigeria has played a very important role in who I am.

RIP Komla Dumor

Sunday, September 1st, 2013

It’s Important Africans Write their Own Stories – BBC’s Komla Dumor
His story is one of preparation meeting opportunity.
He was kicked out of medical school and so decided to find a new direction. Later, an advert in a newspaper caught his eye, and promised a new world of possibilities in a not-so-familiar path.
So, let‘s cut to the chase.
From being a traffic reporter on the streets of Accra, Ghana, to becoming the face and main anchor of BBC’s Focus on Africa, Komla Dumor has travelled the world and scaled the heights in pursuit of his broadcasting dreams.
More accustomed to being on the other side of the interview, Dumor proved his mastery of both worlds when he sat down with Sam Umukoro in this exclusive interview in London. Here, Dumor shares his passion for broadcast journalism, his career journey thus far and how he balances his family and work life.
Sam Umukoro Interview: Did you envisage achieving this kind of success as a broadcast journalist?
Komla Dumor: Yes and No. No, because nobody knows what the future is going to be and my original career path was medicine. For years, I studied science; biology, went further to medical school and spent three years trying but it didn’t work out. So if you were to ask me back in 1988 when I first started medical school if I thought I would end up being a television news anchor, I will say, not in my wildest dreams. But you deal with disappointments and situations as best as you can, to some extent there has been a lot of luck, in the sense that if I had never seen a newspaper advert looking for a traffic reporter, perhaps I won’t have taken this career path. It happened when the university closed down in Ghana, university lecturers went on strike, as they do across West Africa, if that hadn’t happened, perhaps I wouldn’t have been in the position where I was looking for something else to do. But I think a lot of it has also been preparation. I have always been interested in news and grew up in a household where my parents made us read the newspapers everyday, watch the news and news programs, even as children. So I knew about television and current affairs, I knew about the BBC long before I worked there. It was a transition then to news and journalism after leaving school and going back to university, let’s just say preparation met opportunity. Again to answer your question, no, I never knew this will happen but when it did, I was prepared for it.
Sam Umukoro Interview: Why did you opt out of studying medicine?
Komla Dumor: There is no story to it. I did not pass the exams. I did not have the discipline to study medicine. Medicine is incredibly difficult and there is a certain degree of maturity that is required for you to be able to spend those long hours dissecting cadavers, and studying biochemistry. I was very young when I entered the university, I passed my JAMB exams at 16, by the time I was 17, I had never left my parents home, I gained admission into the University of Jos. I don’t know how it is now but it was a fantastic place to be, with fantastic climate. There were all kinds of people, amazing people from all over the country. Jos was really the melting pot in Nigeria; you could not help but be taken by the diversity and beauty of the place and these surroundings. I had never left my parents home until then and like any 17-year-old, so many things distracted me. By the time the second professional exams came around, I repeated it again, passed my anatomy and psychology exams, but couldn’t cross the biochemistry hurdle. So, I didn’t leave, I was kicked out of medical school.
Sam Umukoro Interview: How did your family react?
Komla Dumor: My family was distressed and disappointed. It would be for any parent who send their child to the university, pay tuition fees, support them financially and emotionally through the university, and for that child not to come back with a degree. Don’t forget my parents are African parents.
To have a child in medical school is something I think anybody will be incredibly proud of. My parents were very happy that I got in but for me to leave after so much investment of time and effort, they were obviously disappointed but they are wonderful people. They helped me get back on my feet and my younger brother is a doctor anyway (general laughter). So the family got its doctor but I think my parents were very generous and very forgiving of my failure as parents should be and I think they also take a lot of credit for helping to get back on my feet and helping me to find a new direction.
Sam Umukoro Interview: You grew up in Kano. What role did Nigeria play in shaping you as a person?
Komla Dumor: I’m from Ghana, and my history, heritage and connection to the country is not in doubt. My grandfather wrote our country’s national anthem and headed a number of public institutions in Ghana. My mother made amazing contributions to Ghana education and my older sister is currently chief executive of the Ghana Investment Promotions Centre. But I think Nigeria has played a very important role in who I am. I went to St. Thomas Secondary School, Kano, made friends there who are still my friends today.  I also still have the friends I made in the University of Jos, despite the fact that I failed medical school. The one thing that I really do like about Nigeria and Nigerians is the ability to dream big and be ambitious. Every country has its problems and there are challenges everywhere, but there is a level of ambition that I find among Nigerians that I think should be appreciated. I was reading some data just the other day about social mobility among African immigrants coming to the UK and Nigerians, I think, we are right at the top, in terms of those graduating, immigrant groups that finish high school, go to university, acquire decent education and jobs. Move the economic ladder, in terms of African immigrants to the UK, Nigerians are at the top and there is something to be said for that. I think it’s also the willingness to be confident in your own environment and elsewhere, Nigerians go anywhere, are outspoken and proud of who they are, regardless of the difficulties. I think this is something that all Africans should admire. I have travelled the continent and there are places I go to and see so many different qualities that different African groups bring to the table; I admire Kenyans, South Africans and Rwandans for certain things and Congolese, Liberians and Ivorians for other things. We are so diverse and everyone brings something to the table, but I wont trade my experiences in Nigeria for anything because they were formative and made a strong contribution. I am 100% Ghanaian, but I have a very strong affection and compassion for Nigeria.

Sam Umukoro Interview: You were the anchor of the BBC African Business Report and travelled round the continent, what do you think are the problems facing young African businesses?
Komla Dumor: You can talk about the technical things, like acquiring financing, red-tape, poor public policies and things like that, but I think those challenges are been increasingly overcome by creative young Africans. As I travel across the continent, I am finding young professionals who are seeing opportunity and overcoming the difficulties. That is what is really impressive, that they see the problems and figure out away around the problems, even though the problems are still there. Also impressive is that you will find many young Africans who are creating wealth for themselves without getting government contracts. You will find a number of Africans who are using technology to deliver services and make money for themselves and for their communities. What I see is Africans are increasingly finding solutions to the problems and not worrying so much about the problems but finding ways to achieve their goals regardless of whatever people say. That is what I have found impressive.
Sam Umukoro Interview: This question is not exactly looking for a one-stop solution, but from your experience, what is the road map to economic development of Africa?
Komla Dumor: I think investment in young people and education. Look at the kind progress a number of countries have made between now and 2015. Most of the fastest growing economies are African, these are interventions been made by African policy makers and there is something to be said for that.
Let’s be clear, I am not in a position where I can say this is what Africa needs, I think Africans know what they need. I also won’t be so patronising to say because I have reported on these stories, I know what the solutions are, but I think the solutions are being found and applied. The evidence shows that a number of African countries with proper economic management are producing results, I think the challenge for those of us who are journalists or in media is to assess if these interventions are producing the kind of outcomes the continent needs; in terms of reducing the total mortality, getting more kids into school, more young people into universities and technical colleges, and then most importantly, if the economies are expanding quickly enough for them to get the jobs that they need, because getting a job has an impact across the board. They are able to provide for their families and live the kind of comfortable life that expands the middle class, which is a good thing for the continent. Those are the stories we need to look out for and assess whether the policy makers are delivering on the promise of the economic interventions.
Sam Umukoro Interview: Many have questioned the handout of aids to African countries by the West, because of the corrupt practices by the African leaders. do you think aid to Africa should be suspended or not?
Komla Dumor: Here is my own observational experience; it can and has worked in certain environments. If you were to say, let’s just stop handing out aids, there is a number of communities that will suffer but there is no disagreement that there need to be better application of those resources. Accountability is extremely important but it works both ways, accountability is not just with those who receive financial aid, but also with those who give the aid. There is level of accountability and I think it is also wrong to give a blanket assessment of Africa and allude to corrupt leaders; there are many places where economic assistance is been applied and it’s changing lives in a positive way. Let’s not forget, there’s not only one party involved when it comes to corruption; there is the giver and the receiver and I have heard increasingly more people say that there used to be accountability on both sides without at the same time providing any justification for the misapplication of resources from those who have been kind enough to provide those resources.

Sam Umukoro Interview: In your TedxEuston presentation, you talked about Western views about Africa, especially from a very narrow perspective. Do you honestly think Africa is under-reported or fairly reported by the Western media?
Komla Dumor: It is an interesting question. What is fair? Is fair what we want to hear or objectivity and balance? I would rather go with objectivity and balance. Over the years there hasn’t been enough in-depth reporting on the continent and to a large extent, the reporting has focused on events and political issues, but things have changed and are changing. That’s why during that Ted talk, I talked about some of the things that we are doing here at the BBC and Focus on Africa. Network Africa radio has been around for years and quite a number of Africans are here in this office working on programmes. These are people who have experience, who understand issues and are clearly capable in finding what was missing in the context of the story.
So even if there is some conflict or some development or political (stories), there are two ends to it. It’s not just the middle where this is what happened and is happening, but the ability to say this is why this is happening and this is where this is going next. I think that provides a better understanding of the issues and with the BBC having Focus on Africa on a global platform, it provides a better understanding of the region. The more coverage the continent gets, the better, but it is ultimately important that Africans themselves write their own stories and that is what is happening here. We have Africans writing new stories. I’m on the continent not less than twice every month and we have more correspondents than any other news broadcaster on the continent and we rely on them. So you can argue strongly that there is a lot more in-depth coverage of the continent and I think the BBC provides a very good example. If you go to Nigeria, our Nigerian correspondent is a Nigerian, our Kenyan correspondents are Kenyans, our South African correspondents are South Africans. The claim that somehow it is foreigners telling the story doesn’t hold water anymore and of course, I’m from Ghana, but grew up in Nigeria, based in Kenya and South Africa; all these important and fascinating places. I have travelled across the continent and can also make a strong argument that the presentation and the new anchoring actually come from a place of understanding.
Sam Umukoro Interview: Ghana has experienced exemplary growth in its economy and democracy in recent years. As a Ghanaian, where do you think the country got it right and what can Nigeria and the rest of Africa learn from it?
Komla Dumor: Whether there is a lesson to be learnt will be for observers to make up their minds, but in terms of having a functioning democracy, Ghana has provided a really good example, transitioning from one government to another. Also, you had oppositions that have become governments and those governments then went back into opposition, so there has also been a fair balance of political power and the parliament is always been fairly evenly split. Usually the party in powers has a slight majority, so the debate has always been vigorous, and this is exemplary. Also, this can be seen in the fact that the elections have been peaceful generally and the results have come out fairly quickly. Another example is the Supreme Court’s verdict on the outcome of the elections, the fact that this has gone through the courts and the arguments have been made within the structure of the Supreme Court, and not on the streets, is also a great example for other countries as well. But let’s not forget that there are other African countries that have also had peaceful transitions after elections. Kenya went through a very difficult period in 2007/2008, but the last election was challenged and resolved in court and the country moves on.
Sam Umukoro Interview: Do you think that Nigeria deserves the ‘big brother’ tag, considering the political and social situations facing the country?
Komla Dumor: I think Nigeria is a tremendously important country. By 2015 you will have more Nigerians than Americans, one in five people of African descent are Nigerian. So you cannot understate the importance of Nigeria, to be frank, Nigeria has the ability to pull the rest of the continent along or possibly even the reverse. It is not just a matter of size; it is just the importance of its economy and its institutions. So to a large extent, over a 150 million people from the continent in one country has impact beyond its borders, and this is a place of great responsibility. Whether Nigeria deserves the accolade or not is for people to judge, to look at the country’s record in terms of democracy, economic performance and management of its resources.
I think Nigerians are in a better position to judge whether their country is doing well or not, but I don’t think there is any African who will dispute the fact that Nigeria bears a lot of responsibility for the rest of Africa, not just economically or politically, but socially and culturally. You go to South Africa and you see SouthAfrican women wearing aso oke. Every country and hotel I have been to has a Nigerian film running on one channel or another. Nigeria’s soft power and culture influence are there to see, but as they say, with great gifts come great responsibility. I don’t think there’s any pan-Africanist out there who does not wish the country well.
Sam Umukoro: On the lighter side, you do a lot of travelling, how do you balance traveling as a journalist with your family life?
Komla Dumor: It’s tough, but I have a very generous and understanding family. It’s not easy and sometimes homework has to be done over the telephone, from wherever country I may be at that time, but modern technology helps. I created a video-calling accounts for my children, so even when they are playing with their handheld devices, I can just pop up on the screen and find out what’s going on. I even created one for the television with a camera and I can actually call in and see what’s happening in the living room, if they are at the table getting their work done and things like that.
Nevertheless, nothing makes up for actually been physical present with your children, for me it’s the quality of the time you spent. It’s one thing to be at home and behind the television, it’s another thing to be there to find out what’s going on in their lives and I try to make the most of the time that I have with them, because one day they will go and I will be by myself, wishing they were around.
But life moves quickly and it’s all about those quality moments that you have with people who care about you and love you.

Sam Umukoro Interview: Many Africans love the English Premier League, which has a massive following in the continent, do you have any favourite team? 
Komla Dumor: Honestly, I am not the most passionate supporter and I am not going to lose sleep because somebody who earns 100,000 pounds a week didn’t win his game. But I tend to support Arsenal. At some point, Arsenal had so many African supporters because Arsene Wenger gave many opportunities to African players and it was great to see players from all over the continent on one team, that’s really where my affection for Arsenal started, plus the qualities of charismatic characters like Thierry Henry.
To be honest with you, I will watch a good football game regardless of who is playing, but even now that the structure of the Arsenal squad has changed, I have more affection for them because they play an African style of football as well, but if they lose I’m still going to get on with my life. I’m not going to be debating or discussing this extensively but yes, I kind of like Arsenal.
Sam Umukoro Interview: I’m going to take the last question from a fan. She wanted to know what other interests you have outside broadcast and journalism, and about your musical interests as well.
Komla Dumor: Outside work, my family is my interest anyway, but my other interests must be music, reading and films, I like watching documentaries and really enjoy a good documentary about something that opens up my mind to something different, it is always wonderful for me. I have a large film collection. When it comes to music, classical music has always been a part of our family. My grandfather attended the Royal Academy of music in the 30s. I think he was the first African to attend, I stand to be corrected, but he was an African musician and part of what he tried to do was to combine African music styles with classical music. He tried to document African music in the same way, that is, the structure, writing and notation of classical music. There’s a second part in the Ghanaian national anthem that isn’t played, but it transitions from a very solid orchestral style into drumming and dancing. So there are elements of that in me.
I also listen to a lot of hip-hop, J-Cole, Wale, right now the album of the year really has to be J-Cole’s album, Born Sinner. I can also transition into R & B and will admit, I will listen to some Michael Jackson, and the classic stuff.
But when it comes to African music, I’m like everybody else, I listen to Sarkodie, Iyanya, D’banj, I appreciate African music and love South African house music; that’s where I am when it comes to African music. I’m also fortunate in that sense that I can appreciate all kinds of music with the exception of maybe heavy metal, which I can’t deal with. I enjoy listening to rock music and can also listen to some folk music but right now, I really like South African house music, African hip-hop, hip-life or whatever you want to call.

RIP,KOMLA DUMOR.

source: SAM UMUKORO INTERVIEW(online).



Tuesday, 14 January 2014

My breasts could kill me-Elizabeth Starr

 Porn star who had illegal 'string' implants 15 years ago to boost her career says her life has been ruined by super-sized chest

  • Elizabeth Starr had now-illegal 'string' implants 15 years ago
  • Doctors have recommended Elizabeth face a double mastectomy
  • The mother-of-two has endured 63 corrective procedures
  • The £3,000 procedure involved inserting synthetic string into the breasts to stimulate fluid production and growth
  • A few days after the operation she began suffering complications
  • The string implant in her left breast is causing fluid to leak into both breasts making them balloon
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Elizabeth Starr fears her now illegal  boob job will kill her after her breasts ballooned to an O cup
Elizabeth Starr fears her now illegal boob job will kill her after her breasts ballooned to an O cup
An adult film star fears her banned breast implants will kill her after her breasts ballooned to an O cup.
Elizabeth Starr had now-illegal 'string' implants 15 years ago to boost her career - but says her life has been ruined by her super-sized chest.
Doctors have recommended she face a double mastectomy rather than live with her potentially fatal implants. 
But the mother-of-two, who has endured a staggering 63 corrective procedures, says she can't face more surgery despite being at risk from blood clots and infection as it would mean the end of her career.
The  43-year-old glamour model whose breasts are still growing, said: 'I was basically the victim of an experiment and I've been paying the price for it ever since.
'Back then I had a family to support and I knew getting bigger boobs would boost my career prospects.
'Now I live day to day worrying I might be struck down by infections or blood clots - it's ruined my life.'
Ms Starr, from Los Angeles, California, was already a 32F when she opted for the polypropylene string implants in 1999.
The £3,000 procedure involved inserting synthetic string into the breasts to stimulate fluid production and growth.
But just a few days after the operation she began suffering complications.
Ms Starr, said: 'My right breast was bright red and swollen and I felt weak and shaky.
'The surgeon cut some tissue away from the breast which he thought might be infected.
'But the infection gradually ate a hole in my right breast the size of a 10-pence piece.
'The pain was unbearable.'
Elizabeth had the string implant removed from her right breast, however, the left one was already too embedded to be taken out.
She said: 'The way the implants work is they continue to grow inside you and become enmeshed in the breast tissue.
 
'Even now I have some residual string in my right breast - I don't think I'll ever be free of it all.
'I was lied to and told the operation had been approved by the medical authority, but it hadn't.'
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Ms Starr was already a 32F when she opted for the polypropylene string implants in 1999
Ms Starr was already a 32F when she opted for the polypropylene string implants in 1999
Over the next 14 years Elizabeth spent a staggering £200,000 on reconstructive operations to put right damage from the surgery.
She said: 'Over the years I've had lots of implants put in and taken out to make my right breast the same size as my left.
'The tissue in my right breast was so badly damaged that there was almost nothing left.
'One operation involved taking a muscle from my back to replace damaged tissue in my right breast.
'I've spent time recovering in oxygen tents and almost died three times.'
Now Elizabeth has a saline implant containing four litres of liquid in her right breast, to match the breast fluid in her left. 
The £3,000 procedure involved inserting synthetic string into the breasts to stimulate fluid production and growth
The £3,000 procedure involved inserting synthetic string into the breasts to stimulate fluid production and growth
But the risk of further complications casts a shadow over her future health.
She said: 'There is so much scar tissue in my breasts it's affecting the blood flow to the body and could cause a fatal blood clot.
'I'm a ticking time bomb because anything could happen to me - I'm so scared.'
Elizabeth already had 38F breast before opting for the string implants.
And the single mother to Jason, 23, and Nicholas, 20, hopes her story will act as a warning to women wanting to copy her look.
She said: 'If you are going to attempt to try to become as busty as I am you are putting yourself at extreme risk.
'You have to know what you are getting yourself into because it will change your life forever. 
Elizabeth has a saline implant containing four litres of liquid in her right breast, to match the breast fluid in her left
Elizabeth has a saline implant containing four litres of liquid in her right breast, to match the breast fluid in her left
Before the operation: The remaining string implant is causing fluid to leak into both breasts making them to balloon
Before the operation: The remaining string implant is causing fluid to leak into both breasts making them to balloon
'I'm in constant pain - bending down and getting dressed are difficult because my back hurts from the weight of my breasts.'
She says the remaining string implant is causing fluid to leak into both breasts making them to balloon.
For the last eight years she has been cared for by Dr Alexander Sinclair, an expert in plastic and reconstructive surgery.
Dr Sinclair said: 'Over the years I've seen cases of polypropylene string implants but I've never seen a case quite like Elizabeth's - her future is uncertain.
'I presented her case at the local medical society and the sentiment was she needed a double mastectomy.'
However, the years of operations have decimated Elizabeth's breast tissue, and she is unwilling to face more risky surgery.
She said: 'I have one option other than to live like this and that is to face a mastectomy.
'But after 63 procedures on my right breast and fighting to keep my career and my breast, I honestly don't think that I could.
'A mastectomy would take away my livelihood and I don't know what else I would do.'
'It's hard when you have been a victim of something and it's even harder when you choose a path in life where people might look down on you and think, 'she deserved it'.
'But I wouldn't wish this on anyone and I hope my story will act as a warning.'


source:Dailymail online

Wednesday, 13 November 2013

Strange affair: Meet the husband, wife and lover living under the SAME roof


“People might think it’s weird but I love both men and couldn’t choose between them,” says Maria


Loved up: Paul, left, Maria and Peter
Loved up: Paul, left, Maria and Peter

Sunday Mirror
When mum-of-two Maria Butzki left her husband Paul for another man, she didn’t realise how much she’d miss him.
At the same time, she couldn’t imagine living without her new lover Peter Gruman.
So when the two men struck up an extraordinary friendship, she came up with the perfect solution... and moved Peter into the family home in Barking, East London.
Now Maria, 33, Paul, 37, their two ­children, Laura, 16, and Amy, 12, and Peter, 36, live as one big happy family.
“People might think it’s weird but I love both men and couldn’t choose between them,” says Maria, a ­housing liaison officer.
“When I left Paul there was a huge hole in my life. But the thought of never seeing Peter again was heartbreaking. So living with both men is the only way.”



Maria Butzki with her family
High five: One big happy family

Alison Smith-Squire

Incredibly, the men agree. Paul, a railway assessor, says: “Peter is a great guy. When Maria first had the affair with him I was just heartbroken. But as I got to know him, I realised we have so much in common. We both adore fishing, and he’s like a surrogate dad to the kids.”
Peter, a construction site manager, adds: “We all get on so well. It doesn’t feel as if I’m ­sharing Maria. There’s no ­jealousy ...it feels as if we are a team.”
It was last year that they all moved in ­together after three years of ­Maria to-ing and fro-ing between her husband and lover.
Peter sleeps on the sofa while Paul has a room ­upstairs. Maria shares a bedroom with her eldest daughter.
She says: “The three of us never share a bed. Although I have a sexual relationship with each man, that side is kept very private. If Paul is out, then Peter and I might make love, and vice-versa. But both men turn a blind eye and we never discuss it with one another.”
Maria was 15 when she and Paul met at school. After dating for two years, she unexpectedly became pregnant. Paul proposed seven months into her term and a month later they ­married. Four years after the birth of Laura, Maria had their second daughter Amy. But in 2006 their marriage hit a rocky patch.



Paul and Maria Butzki on their wedding day
Happy: Paul and Maria on their wedding day

Alison Smith-Squire

Maria says: “Paul was out of work for six months and it put a strain on our ­relationship. The stress led to less sex and we grew apart. Although we carried on with life – cooking, cleaning, looking after the child­ren – we’d lost our intimacy. The relationship was more brother and sister than a couple.”
Around the same time a new manager, Peter, started at Maria’s workplace.
“Someone introduced me to Peter and when we smiled at one another, I could feel the chemistry straight away,” she says. “Until that moment, I’d been happily married for 13 years to my childhood sweetheart and had never thought about being with another man.”
Peter, who was also married at the time, recalls the same instant attraction. “It was like a bolt from the blue... love at first sight,” he says.
Soon the pair were meeting secretly. “We’d meet at the local pub for lunch,” says Maria. “One day he put a hand on my leg and my whole body began trembling with desire. I knew it was wrong but soon we were sleeping together.”
Their affair carried on for a year before Paul stumbled on messages between them on Maria’s phone. She managed to convince him they were just friends. But a few months later her lover left his wife and moved from Luton, Beds, to be closer to Maria in Barking.
“I grew even closer to Peter,” says Maria. “Paul had to go away on business for a few weeks and so Peter took the children shopping, ­spoiling them rotten with gifts.”
But on Valentine’s Day in 2010, Maria says she could no longer cope with the secrecy. “I began to feel more and more that my future lay with Peter,” she says. “So I confessed my affair to Paul, and moved out to stay with Peter.”
Paul and the children were devastated. He says: “I was just shocked and heartbroken. I couldn’t believe Maria had left me.”
Over the next few months Paul and Maria took turns to have the children. “I felt bad about tearing the family apart,” says Maria. “So after work I’d go and clean and cook for Paul and the kids and then go home to Peter.”
Paul says: “While I was so upset, I decided to try to put the children first. It was going to be much better if we could all be mature adults and be amicable about it. I could see Peter was a decent guy. When the kids went to stay over I knew he was putting himself out to make sure they were happy. I’d go to pick them up and we got chatting.”
Over the next year their relationship became even more amicable. Maria says: “Rather than cook two separate dinners, it was easier to just do one and all sit down together. Paul and Peter got on so well they went on a fishing trip together. We even started going on days out and holidays together.
“It was strange but I noticed I felt at my happiest when we were all together. The children adored having both of them around too.”
Then in November 2012 the tenancy on Peter’s rented flat came to an end. He went to stay with a friend and Maria moved back to the family home. Maria says: “It was supposed to be a temporary arrangement but while I missed Peter terribly, it was fantastic to be back as a family.”
When Peter found another flat, Maria decided it was time to sit both men down and be honest with them. “I said I loved them both,” she says. “I said I couldn’t face living without either of them.”
To her delight, both men said they understood.
Peter says: “By now Paul and I had developed a huge respect for each other. We didn’t see one another as rivals for Maria’s affections. We were friends who got on well. At the same time I’d come to care so much for the children. It seemed natural to live together.”
Paul says: “Maria was and still is my soulmate.”
The “family” are now in the process of buying a larger house to accommodate them all.
Maria admits many friends and family find the arrangement difficult to understand.



Fishing Pals Peter Gruman and Paul Butzki
Gone fishing: Pals Peter and Paul

Alison Smith-Squire

“Some people are shocked, mostly because they get the wrong idea and think it’s some sort of threesome,” she says. “Most people seem to think I should just remain with Paul, but those who see all of us ­together think differently.” She adds: “There are huge benefits to living together. For example, as Paul and I leave for work early, Peter is often able to take the children to school.
“Ultimately the children benefit from three adults able to help with school work or give them lifts. Financially too, it makes sense as the bills are split three ways.”
Ironically, Maria is now the one who sometimes gets jealous. “I’m left on my own when the pair of them go on a long fishing trip,” she says.
She’s unsure what the sleeping arrangements will be in their new house. “But we would never have any sort of rota where I sleep with Peter one night and Paul the next. I do know I’m very lucky to have two wonderful men in my life.”

Source:Mirror Online.

Sunday, 10 November 2013

Mr. Ibu in Sierra Leone (US Trailer)

http://www.youtube.com/v/HYY6ztQp-6I?autohide=1&version=3&autoplay=1&attribution_tag=erxIWFFX6S7QDeQj6UFt1Q&showinfo=1&feature=share&autohide=1

Wednesday, 9 October 2013

Finally at the Red Light District, Amsterdam

Finally at the Red Light District, Amsterdam

Guild of Tourism Journalists lament Deji Falae’s exit

Guild of Tourism Journalists lament Deji Falae’s exit

Guild of Tourism Journalists lament Deji Falae’s exit

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THE Guild of Tourism Journalists in Nigeria( GTJN ) has described the death of the Ondo State  Commissioner for Tourism and Orientation, Mr Deji Falae,  as a “a sudden drop of a bright star  from the tourism  firmament of the nation.”
 The group, in a  press release signed by its President, Mr. Wale Ojo – Lanre,  lamented: “We are shocked beyond the marrows that death has no regard  for brilliance, intelligence, good conduct,  humbleness, youthfulness, erudition,  candour, reasonability and responsiveness, which Deji Falae epitomised when alive.
GTJN pointed out that “His death is a wicked pain and irreparable blow to the tourism sector in Ondo State, where he has, in his usual quiet and smooth  manner, started to show the stuff he was made of.”
The group remarked that “Deji was one of the pillars of the  tourism strides of Governor Olusegun Mimiko  in Ondo State.
Though, a Barrister-at-Law with no experience in tourism administration, the late Deji stooped low to learn, read and consult widely on tourism and took time to understand the import of the sector, hence his ability to key into the tourism vision of Governor Mimiko perfectly. GTJN pointed out that “at every tourism and cultural event hosted by the Ondo State government, especially Mare Festival, you would see the diligence of purpose and passion with which he handled his brief.”
The group recalled the last time  the late Deji  had  some members of the association at the Civic Centre, Ozumba Mbadiwe, Victoria Island, Lagos: “We  never knew that  you were signing off here  on earth when you left your seat at the Civic Centre, Ozumba  Mbadiwe, during the Tourism Stakeholders’ Forum called by the Director – General, Nigerian Tourism Development  Corporation ( NTDC),   to exchange pleasantries and rubbed minds on tourism issues with our members.”
The late Deji, according to the release, gave an insight into what should be expected at the Mare Mountain Climbing Festival 2013: “I am assuring you that the next Mare, which your association has been penciled down as one of the facilitators and collaborators, will be bigger, better and of immense economic benefit to Ondo State people. You will be happy; Governor Mimiko is going higher with Mare this year. We shall all make Ondo-State proud with the festival this year.”
The group, however, condoled with the governor of Ondo State, Dr Olusegun Mimiko, on losing such a dynamic and purposeful aide who has been a keen loyalist and a dutiful executor of the vision of his boss.
“We urge Governor Mimiko  to take heart and solace in the fact that we all know how much he  loves Deji but that God  loves him more,” GTJN concluded.

Thursday, 13 June 2013

WHAT LATE FATAI ROLLING DOLLAR TOLD ME ABOUT HIS CHILDREN-SEYI KLAXI

It was one of quite a few of our meetings while featuring him in my Column after his miraculous comeback to the limelight.This time at his home in Lagos.A gift from the Ex-Governor of Lagos,Asiwaju Ahmed Tinubu who he never stopped to eulogise throughout our chat.
My impression of Pa Rolling Dollar was one of  watching history of Nigerian music in the flesh as well as a fond amusement at his 'Swagger'...from his very youthful jeans,shirts,sneakers,dark sunglasses and the Jay-Z cum Kanye West Blings chains. He also struck me as quite philosophical about his earlier misfortune or long break from music.

He showed me some pictures of his earlier life and an instrument that takes one back to the '60s and we chatted in a relaxed atmosphere with his amiable wife and less than 2 years (I can't remember exactly) son present.He played with the boy,tickled him,made faces and sang to the Toddler who was very glad and responded with glee.The very friendly and family side of the legendary musician was all there to see. He shared jokes with his wife and I with the ease of someone who has a very youthful mind.He was in his late '70 then and I was about to ask him why have more kids when it happened.



The piercing  cry of the little boy broke the silence of the entire estate and and before any of us (his wife and I) could react,Pa Rolling Dollar bolted out of the door so fast that I could not imagine anyone after 40 running like that. The baby had crawled away from his mum and hanging between the Railing by the corridor and the external door,so would have landed on the floor if not for the athleticism of  the father who got there fast.



Pa Rolling Dollar was livid, he rounded on his wife and gave her a piece of his mind.She had just left the baby for like 2 minutes to get something(maybe a nappy),in the room when the mishap occurred.
I did not envy that woman that day and as I watched Pa Rolling Dollar trying to compose himself,that he loved his kids was undeniable,he cradled the child in his hands for the rest of my stay as if he could not trust the mum with him.



When he returned to his jovial self,I asked him why he is still having a baby at his age..he looked at me with those wise.mischievous and quite kind eyes,then replied that he loves kids and won't stop having them as long as he can.He tried to list some of them and their ages and so on while we talked.

He got another not quite long after that as he promised.Maybe even more.-KLAXI

FROM NIGERIAN TRIBUNE:
ONE of Nigeria’s oldest practising musicians, Fatai Rolling Dollar, is dead. He died at the age of 85. The respected artiste, was receiving treatment at a private Lagos hospital, Marritol, Surulere, where he had been hospitalised for about three weeks.
His wife, Zainab Olagunju, who confirmed the news in a telephone interview, said that Rolling Dollars had been receiving treatment in America as he fell ill while there. She said that a few days after his arrival in Nigeria, he had complained of inability to walk properly. With this complaint, he was promptly taken to the private hospital at Ogunlana Drive in Surulere area of Lagos State. She also said that Fatai’s medical bills had, till now, been footed by an organisation for whom he worked as a model in an advertisement.
A week ago, news had broken from some media sources who spread rumours about his death, an allegation which the veteran artiste denied vehemently.
Rolling Dollar, whose voice was not audible when speaking to the Nigerian Tribune said that he would continue with his shows, which had stopped as a result of his illness.
Meanwhile, encomiums have been pouring in from his colleagues in the music industry in Nigeria and from his fans all over the world.
The President of Nigeria has joined music lovers all over the world in mourning and extending heartfelt condolence to the late Fatai Rolling Dollar’s family and pray that God Almighty grant his soul eternal rest.
He believes the late Rolling Dollar who thrilled fans during his 64 year career will in death remain an influence on African music.
Gospel Highlife/juju musician, Yinka Ayefele said, “The news came to me as a rude shock. I never knew he was very sick. I enjoy his music so much and he was a father figure in the industry. His humility, determination and high sense of reasoning fascinated me so much. The industry has lost an enigma and musical colossus. I hope the government does something to immortalise him,” he said.
The governor of Osun State, Rauf Aregbesola, in his reaction, said that the death of Rolling Dollar, a front runner of Juju/Highlife music, was a huge loss to the entertainment industry.
Aregbesola, in a statement signed by his Director of Bureau of Communications and Strategy, Mr Semiu Okanlanwon,described the octogenarian as a testimony of perseverance and hope, stressing that his life demonstrated that no time was too late for man to have a breakthrough in life.
Pa. Fatai Olayiwola Olagunju aka Fatai Rolling Dollar was born on the 22nd July 1926 to the family of late Chief Olagunju in Ede, Osun State. He started his musical career in 1953 and has trained many professional musicians, such as Evangelist Ebenezer Obey, late Dr. Orlando Owoh, Bob Aladeniyi among others.
Pa Rolling Dollar had played music throughout his life time and travelled far and wide preaching the gospel of music. He was one of the pioneers of Juju music genre in Nigeria.
Years back, it seems like Pa Rolling Dollar was in the nightfall of his career, but he took many and the Nigerian music scene by surprise as he stormed back with his hit song, ‘WON KERE SI NUMBER WA’, which became the anthem of young and old, also the song was used as signature tunes for some brand commercials.
The Juju legend at 85, was still fathering babies, and in a recent interview claimed that he was still interested in fathering babies.



Thursday, 11 April 2013

Kanu Nwankwo makes Twitter appeal.


So I decided yesterday to give this a try. Hope say you guys go do me well on this twitter tin.

The Nigerian Football ace is no stranger to publicity but can you blame him for the message above especially with things going viral within seconds....Kudos to him also,within 24 hours,his followers will be over a thousand we predict.

Wednesday, 30 January 2013

Hotel business is about people, not structure -Johnson Adepoju Akinniyi, CEO, Leisure Spring Hotel

Hotel business is about people, not structure -Johnson Adepoju Akinniyi, CEO, Leisure Spring Hotel

Ayinkunugba Waterfalls, Oke–Ila excites American students of Yoruba Language, UI •Commend traditional ruler for being proactive

Ayinkunugba Waterfalls, Oke–Ila excites American students of Yoruba Language, UI •Commend traditional ruler for being proactiveok

Ayinkunugba Waterfalls, Oke–Ila excites American students of Yoruba Language, UI •Commend traditional ruler for being proactive

Ayinkunugba Waterfalls, Oke–Ila excites American students of Yoruba Language, UI •Commend traditional ruler for being proactive

Ayinkunugba Waterfalls, Oke–Ila excites American students of Yoruba Language, UI •Commend traditional ruler for being proactive

Ayinkunugba Waterfalls, Oke–Ila excites American students of Yoruba Language, UI •Commend traditional ruler for being proactive

Olumirin waterfall, Erin-Ijesa, Osun •Despoiled, neglected and abandoned,yet fantastic

Olumirin waterfall, Erin-Ijesa, Osun •Despoiled, neglected and abandoned,yet fantastic

Behold! Site of the first plane crash in Nigeria

Behold! Site of the first plane crash in Nigeria

Sorry state of Africa’s suspended lake. Location: Ado Awaye, Oyo State

Sorry state of Africa’s suspended lake. Location: Ado Awaye, Oyo State